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Because I am strange...

When I am told that I am smart, I am perfectly capable of  smiling and saying thank you.
I have no problems being  told that I am talented, funny, creative, witty, interesting, charming or even that I have nice  teeth.  Which I do.  Thank you mom and dad and Dr. Chris.

I HATE being called good looking or beautiful or sexy.  I'm sure they think they are being flirtatious but it makes me want to punch them in the nose.

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bellezzarubata
May. 11th, 2005 08:56 pm (UTC)
I like your little icon. : )

I also like being validated for my physical merits on a daily basis...wait, no I don't. It seems like a strange thing, I agree..if I am reading your post correctly.
new_iconoclast
May. 11th, 2005 09:06 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure why not. Maybe it's just my advanced age, but I wouldn't mind someone telling me I was good-looking. I wouldn't necessarily think it's the only thing you're being rated on, is it? I mean, from what I can tell, you are all of those things (talented, funny, creative, witty, interesting, charming - I have no opinion on your teeth) and you also happen to be attractive. If it's a relative stranger addressing you, "beautiful" is a little over-the-top and "sexy" seems kind of tacky, but that might be preferable to being talented, funny, creative, witty, interesting, charming and "having a sweet spirit." :)

However, it would mean so much more coming from someone who had spent some time and emotional effort getting to know you. Those sorts of phrases have a lot more power when backed with genuine affection.
pvenables
May. 11th, 2005 09:09 pm (UTC)
Is it the source of the compliment that's at issue or that you are uncomfortable being thought of as beautiful or sexy? I mean, I'd be uncomfortable hearing that from someone I had zero interest in but when it comes from my partner I'm very happy to hear it.
jatg
May. 11th, 2005 10:41 pm (UTC)
The second one.
pvenables
May. 12th, 2005 02:52 am (UTC)
I suppose you have to be able to believe it yourself before you can accept such a claim from an external source. You may not think yourself ugly but if you really don't think of yourself as pretty you'll never believe someone who tells you so.

I know it's all too trite to say it but beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. No matter who you are or what you look like the person who loves you will find you attractive and the words they will use to describe you will be "beautiful," "attractive," and "sexy."

mitchy
May. 11th, 2005 09:28 pm (UTC)
Frankly, I think it's great for the ego if someone compliments me in that way. Nothing wrong with being flirtatious in that manner; I can think of far worse ways of starting off a conversation :)
bluesilverkdg
May. 11th, 2005 10:16 pm (UTC)
Ha...I was just actually going to say "you look very pretty in that icon." But I'll refrain, because I don't want you to come through the screen and slap me.

But I understand, because smart lasts...beauty fades.
jatg
May. 11th, 2005 10:30 pm (UTC)
Actually I rather like that picture of me as well. :)

But it's more than that...I know it's something psychological that I have such a hard time taking physical compliments. Doesn't matter if I know the person or not...if I get complimented along the lines of pretty, beautiful or sexy...I get annoyed and wonder what is wrong with the person.

And it's not that I think I'm Quasimodo's long lost sister or something...it's strange. I'm trying to figure it out.
wurtmann
May. 12th, 2005 04:21 pm (UTC)
Beautiful
Beauty is more than skin deep. Besides that you had a beautiful grandmother, have a beautiful mother and sister. You are beautiful. Don't think in terms of a perfect body or face and look on the inside too.
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