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So...how did it go?

"So...how did your date go?" my roommates asked as I wished McKay a good night and went back into my house.

He picked me up, right on time. I had had enough time to have a shower, shampoo my hair and yes, I broke out the razor. I needed to do that particular chore anyway since I was getting to the point of wanting to kidnap Fae Wray and climb tall buildings.

He looked pretty much like I remembered him, a bit taller than me, bright blue eyes and wire glasses, slightly snaggly teeth (enough to be slightly endearing) and boy, in another 3 or 4 years he was just going to be BALD. He was also wearing a bright red Tshirt with the Nintendo logo on it and something like "Nintendo addicts society" written. I decided not to be annoyed because I had actually dressed up a bit for this, gosh darn it, put in some makeup and he was wearing a joke Tshirt.

He didn't really know any restaurants around SLC (turns out he's from Orem but is making a big move to PROVO.) so I mentioned a few and we settled on Thai Foon. It's one of my favorite places and have taken many people there. I also decided not to be annoyed that he asks me out and I have to pick the restaurant.

The wait was around 40 minutes so we roamed around the nearby Barnes and Noble for a while.

Now, I think a bookstore is almost a perfect first date place because there isn't any pressure to DO anything or BUY anything. All you have to do it roam around and chat and see where the other person likes to roam and see how they react when you stroll by the graphic novels and biographies of past presidents. (I love presidential bios.)

He mostly followed me around and confessed when he wanted a book he would just go to Amazon. Now, I have NO problem with ordering books online but I also love the randomness of bookstores...to see things that you wouldn't ordinarily seek out but still have them reach out and grab you. I did note he pulled out his palm pilot several times and jotted down titles.

So it wasn't a shock when we finally sat down to dinner and he looked at me seriously and said, "I feel I should tell you straight up, I am a geek."
I laughed.
"I think I figured that out when you told me you were a programmer! They kind of go hand in hand."
So we talked about geekiness, degrees of, (he told me he wore the shirt on the first date to remove all doubt.)

During most of the evening I kept looking at him trying to figure out how old he was. People when they get around 25 or so...start to age. Just teeny, tiny little things, oh so subtle...and he didn't seem to have any...but his HAIR said late 20s. So when he mentioned his mission I asked him how long he had been home.

His face scrunched up and he looked up trying to calculate and I thought, "Oh, he has to THINK about it...this is a good sign."
"Um, 3 years," he said.
"Three years?" I said. Oh man, that makes him...
"I just turned 24."
He's TWENTY FOUR.

"So...how old are you?" he asked me.
"Oh man," I laughed. "I'm so not going to tell you." Well, I knew I was but I was curious to see where he thought I was at.
"Well, let me think about what I know. You graduated from college...so that's 4 years..."
'No, It was a 3 year program."
"Oh...so, you graduated from college...you said you went to Weber State for 2 years..."
"I went on a MISSION," I chime in.
"You did?"
He looks startled by this. I am curious as to the reasons why but am content to sit and let him work out my age.
"So...2 years...three years...a year and a half... that'd make you ...that'd only make you 24."
I remind him I graduated from college...FIVE YEARS AGO.
He again looks startled...
"You're ... 29?"
"Dude. I'm 31."

He seemed almost distraught. "I thought you were 26 or 27, tops!"
Thank you. That you very, very much.

So, as we went home we chatted a bit but I think we were thinking along the same lines. Our ages were tooo far apart. I'm not sure how he felt...because I WAS charming and funny and dang it all, I prettied up for this... but for me, I was relieved that odds were there wasn't going to be a second date...and if he asked, I'd let him down gently...but I am NOT going out with someone who is almost 8 years younger than me.

So, I hope this satisfies everyone's curiousity.

Did I miss anything?

Comments

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new_iconoclast
Mar. 6th, 2005 01:14 am (UTC)
Did I miss anything?

Yes. Did you shave your legs? :)
jatg
Mar. 6th, 2005 06:13 am (UTC)
Why, yes, yes I did. :)
new_iconoclast
Mar. 7th, 2005 01:02 am (UTC)
Well then! I guess it was official!
mortuus
Mar. 6th, 2005 01:34 am (UTC)
Yeah, definitely cradle robbing. I just let go of the "high school rule" (had to be in high school at the sime time, so 3 to 4 years older or younger), but 8 years would definitely be weird. Not out the question, but weird.
tupelo
Mar. 6th, 2005 02:22 am (UTC)
I'm nine years older than my husband and couldn't imagine being married to anyone else. I had never dated anyone that young. Stuff happens.
mortuus
Mar. 6th, 2005 02:29 am (UTC)
Oh, yeah, I know a number of couples with a relatively large gap between their ages, that's why I wouldn't totally dismiss it. But to me it is still weird to think of dating someone that much older or younger than me.
jatg
Mar. 6th, 2005 06:14 am (UTC)
My spread is 5 years in either direction. If they are really cool I give them the "BJ spot," and grant them an extra year. I just can't date someone who wasn't born the same decade as me.
wyckhurst
Mar. 6th, 2005 07:27 am (UTC)
You might want to explain what that BJ Spot is...otherwise people might get the wrong idea!
bluesilverkdg
Mar. 6th, 2005 02:51 am (UTC)
Everyone I've ever dated (except for my ex husband) has been younger than me. I'm 36, but most people guess that I'm in my mid-20s...so I typically date guys 5-10 years younger. My last serious boyfriend was 26 when we started dating...I was 33. If you two click, you like him and he's a good guy....does it really matter? Probably not. Just be glad you met someone you like. :-)
jatg
Mar. 6th, 2005 06:15 am (UTC)
He was a nice guy. I don't want to date him for reasons beyond the age thing. It's just a a really good excuse.
tupelo
Mar. 7th, 2005 09:18 pm (UTC)
Yeah, age or no age, the stupid T-shirt would have been a dealbreaker for me.
bluesilverkdg
Mar. 7th, 2005 09:32 pm (UTC)
Ha...I was thinking the exact same thing when I read that. I have a friend who wears t-shirts that say things like "Talk Nerdy To Me", which is cute for a friend, but if we were on a date, I'd think otherwise, I'm sure.

But yeah...if you just don't particularly care for him, it wouldn't matter if he was 24 or 54. I think someone else said that as you get older, age really is irrelevant. When you're 21, if you date someone who is 18, it's like a world of difference, but as you get older...age is just a number. Maturity and personality know no bounds. Good luck to you!
mitchy
Mar. 6th, 2005 03:01 am (UTC)
An age gap shouldn't matter a damn if you get on. I've been in long term relationships with a guy older and a guy younger than me and it was never an issue.

On the other hand, if his youth annoys you.....:D

I'm glad at least the date wasn't horrid.
jatg
Mar. 6th, 2005 06:16 am (UTC)
It's not that his youth annoys me... he was a nice guy but I wasn't interested in him romantically either. I just have a really good reason to tell people why I won't continue to date him.
new_iconoclast
Mar. 7th, 2005 01:04 am (UTC)
How about, "He was a nice guy, but he just didn't zing me" ? That'd be good enough for me, and I'd probably respect that answer more than "He was too young."
wyckhurst
Mar. 6th, 2005 07:26 am (UTC)
LOL! I dunno Jett, younger men are exciting. Though carrying and using a palm pilot on a date automatically disqualifies him from being exciting. ;-)
triqster
Mar. 6th, 2005 03:35 pm (UTC)
I decided not to be annoyed because I had actually dressed up a bit for this, gosh darn it, put in some makeup and he was wearing a joke Tshirt.

Oh, I _hate_ that! I had a date with a guy once and it was a big deal setting it up because he didn't live close by. He shows up wearing a t-shirt and sweat pants. I don't expect someone to be in suit&tie, but jeez put in a little effort. Casual is fine, but "I picked up my gym sweats from the floor" is another, especially on a first date. (Unless you are going running or some other activity where that is appropriate attire.)
bellezzarubata
Mar. 11th, 2005 08:55 pm (UTC)
I love this. You remind me of one of my anthropology professors -- she is very funny.
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